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September 2010
- Legal:
When Things Change
Find out if and how you can modify your divorce decree after the fact. - Financial:
Be Prepared
When you're negotiating your divorce settlement, preparation is the key to success. Are you really ready to negotiate your future? - Divorce Recovery:
Grieving and Healing after a Profound Loss
We need time to reconstitute ourselves after a loss. Learn how to deal with the loss of a relationship. - Parenting:
50/50 Child Access: A Passionate and Heated Debate
See what the public and the divorce professionals have to say on this topic. - Relationship:
Discovering Authentic Love
Learn from the mistakes you've made and understand how to avoid repeating them. Find out about the 7 types of love masquerades.
August 2010
- Legal:
On the Case
How to choose the best lawyer for you. - Financial:
Charting Your Expenses
Your family's lifestyle and reasonable needs are two components of expenses that play a part in a divorce. The task of budgeting your family's past, present, and future expenses may seem daunting. Here's some help to get you started. - Divorce Recovery:
Stepping off the Roller Coaster
The divorce roller coaster includes periods of euphoria followed by deep lows. Right now, you may be feeling like an unwilling passenger on a wild ride, but the ride won't last forever. - Parenting:
Building a Happier Future
For more than half of all North American children, divorce is a fact of life. Perhaps now more than ever, you are acutely conscious of wanting to give your child all the love, support, and guidance he or she needs, but suddenly everything seems harder and more complicated. - Mediation:
The Art of Negotiation
How to reach an agreement that's both acceptable and affordable.
July 2010
- Legal:
Working with Your Attorney to Get the Best Results Possible
A description of what information your lawyer needs and why. - Financial:
Your Money Personality
This article will help you increase your self-awareness as you gain an overview of your present relationship to money and of your money personality in general. - Divorce Recovery:
Full Esteem Ahead
Reclaiming your self-esteem after divorce is a critical part of the healing process. Here are some suggestions to help you on your way. - Parenting:
Successful Step Families
How to create a happy, functional stepfamily. - Relationships:
Reinventing Relationships
Your marital relationship is over, but what about your relationship with your in-laws, their relationship with your children, or even your relationship with your ex-spouse's new Significant Other? What is healthy and appropriate? Since no one has written the new rules and codes of social conduct for relationships engendered by divorce, we asked some experts to share their insights with us.
June 2010
- Legal:
How to Get a Divorce
A step-by-step layman's guide. - Financial:
Avoiding Common Pitfalls
Certified Divorce Financial Analysts™ offer their best tips to help you avoid some of the most common mistakes made by divorcing people. - Divorce Recovery:
Think Positive!
You can't always choose what happens to you, but you can choose how to react to and how you'll feel about your circumstances. Here's how to use the magic of optimism to create a positive future for yourself. - Parenting:
Children's Reaction
Here are some of the reactions most commonly experienced by children immediately after separation or divorce. By knowing what to expect, you'll be better equipped to help your children deal with the ones they experience. - Collaborative:
What is Collaborative Divorce?
An alternative to divorce litigation in which all parties work together to create solutions without going to court.
May 2010
- Legal:
Advice from A Judge
A Family Court Judge talks about effective preparation for court -- and how to achieve results in court by utilizing all available resources. - Financial:
DFinancial Health Check-Up
Take this short quiz to find out whether you get a clean bill of financial health -- or if you require emergency care. - Divorce Recovery:
Curing the Divorce Hangover
A "divorce hangover" can be healed and regardless of whether it was by choice or not, it can be the beginning of a happier, more satisfying one. - Parenting:
Handling Visitation
Your child has two parents who no longer live in the same home, so you each must take turns living with the child -- even if it is only for a few hours or for a weekend. Here's some advice for the custodial and non-custodial parent. - Relationships:
One Singular Sensation
Why it's more than okay to be single.
April 2010
- Divorce Recovery:
Reaching Renewal
Scripting your post-divorce life can be exhilarating, rewarding – and a little overwhelming. Here are some suggestions to help you along your way. - Mediation:
The Benefits of Divorce Mediation
Summary: How the mediation process can diffuse the conflict and improve communication in your divorce.. - Financial:
How Do Property Disputes First Go Wrong?
Think back briefly to the beginning of your marriage. In preparing for a property settlement, reflect upon how property ownership issues affected you even before your wedding. - Legal:
A Divorce Attorney Who's A Perfect Fit
How to find a family lawyer tailor-made to suit your divorce's unique needs. - Financial
How Do Property Disputes First Go Wrong?
Think back briefly to the beginning of your marriage. In preparing for a property settlement, reflect upon how property ownership issues affected you even before your wedding.
March 2010
- Finance
Surviving divorce during recession
How to prepare yourself to deal with the financial realities of divorce — especially in this tough economy.
Keeping your divorce costs down
Judge Lynn Toler to share some advice on how you can keep divorce costs down - Divorce
The secret to a successful divorce
According to this Family Court Judge, the answer to a "good divorce" is simpler than most people — including most Judges — think. - Parentings
An approach to resolving child access
Maximize your parental time while yielding to the best interests of the children. - Health and Well Being
How to quiet your mind
Tame tension during your divorce to reduce your stress level and help you get through the process.
February 2010
- Relationship
Divorce prevention
Valentine's Days tips from DivorceMagazine.com. - Legal
Divorce versus annulment
Learn the differences between a divorce, a legal annulment and a religious annulment. - Parent Alienation
A family’s heartbreak: a parent’s introduction to parental alienation
In a healthy divorce both parents help the child through the divorce as equals. - Emotional Wellness
Divorce and your emotional needs: what you should know to survive your divorce
Some of the most difficult stages involve emotional growth and balance. - Finance
Avoiding financial disaster
January 2010
- Considering Divorce
Should You Stay or Go?
The clue often lies in the reason you have for wanting to stay married. - Finance
What you should know about QDROS
The top four mistakes people make when it comes to QDROs. - Parenting
Once You've Told Your Children about the Divorce
Learn some guidelines for helping children best adjust to the changes a divorce will bring in the early days. - Legal
The Bifurcated Divorce
If you and your spouse want to end the marriage immediately, but still have issues that are not yet satisfied in the settlement agreement, you may seek a bifurcated divorce. - Parenting and Stepfamilies
The Parent Left Behind
Here's how to make it easier for the parent staying home.
December 2009
- Finance
In Debt?? - Getting Your Finances Back on Track
Get control of your finances and debts, its up to you to manage. - Divorce Recovery
Life after Divorce: The power of acceptance
Acceptance is the most important and most difficult step we must take toward releasing the past and beginning a new chapter of life. - Parenting and Stepfamilies
Is It Wise to Save Money and Vacation Together?
How two parents can vacation together with the children after a separation. - Legal/child custody
Who Decides: You or the Judge?
Be aware that when you take child issues to court, you are turning over control to a judge who doesn't know you or your children. - Holiday Tips
Holiday tips for divorced parents
An interview with Dan Couvrette, Publisher of Divorce Magazine.
November 2009
- Divorce Recovery Divorce Ceremony:
A Healing Way to Begin Life Anew
A healing and constructive way to honor divorce as a rite of passage is through a personalized and meaningful ceremony. - Holiday/parenting:
Two Homes for the Holidays
How to deal with your children's anxieties over celebrating holidays with separated parents. - Divorce Lawyers:
How to Evaluate a Lawyer
Some useful questions to ask when deciding which lawyer to use.
- Relationship:
The Good Divorce
The simple truth is that while there are bad divorces, there are also good ones.
- Finance :
Divorce Put You Into Debt? Consider Debt Management
Debt management can help you regain your financial balance, so you can make thoughtful choices.
October 2009
- Advice From A Judge:
Observe courtroom etiquette.
This judge wants you to know a bit of etiquette in advance to help you ease your worries about making a gaffe. - New service/parenting:
New computer program lets parents tell bedtime stories while absent
Available online Oct 7. - Finance:
Love, money, and the blended family
How to manage a relationship that comes with financial liabilities from a previous divorce. - Relationship:
Seeking marriage counseling
Here are some of the reasons why couples seek marriage counseling. - Children and Divorce:
When did childhood get to be so stressful?
Appreciate your child's situation and be the adults.
September 2009
- Divorce Law/Family Law:
Divorce versus Annulment
Learn the differences between divorce and annulment. - Financial:
Divorce, Recession Style
The way that couples -- and the professionals assisting them -- are dealing with divorce has had to change dramatically to keep up with today's financial realities. - Separation/Divorce Process:
Contested or Uncontested
Here's an overview of the contested and.uncontested divorce process. - Parenting and Stepfamilies:
Reconcilable Differences: Forgive Us Our Trespasses
Learn how to re-build relationships after separation/divorce. - Divorce Therapy:
Divorce Therapy for Parents: How to help your children
Divorce is hard for your children, here are some suggestion to help you help your children.
August 2009
- Advice from Judge Toler
The wisdom to know the difference
In order to navigate the legal system successfully, you have to understand (and come to terms with) what it can and cannot do. - Divorce Law/Family Law
Don't get hung up on fairness
Learn why this judge says: In divorce court, arguing about whether something is fair is usually a waste of time. - Divorce Recovery
Life after Divorce: The power of acceptance
The acceptance of your reality, with no illusions or personal interpretations or filters involves giving up blame, resentment, and regret. - Divorce Mediation
Emotional issues and negotiation skills
Questions and answers on how to overcome emotions that interfere with negotiations; how to make trade-offs so that you get what you really want etc. - Parenting and Stepfamilies
The key to divorced parents helping their children through economically stressful times: work together
Learn how to communicate your changing financial circumstances to your children by working together with your spouse.
July 2009
- Health/Well Being
The transformative power of self-care
Self-care is about nurturing yourself on all levels -- physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually -- so you can live, love, and parent optimally. - Financial
Making your case for spousal support
Many states and provinces consider your marital standard of living and your pre-divorce lifestyle as major factors in awarding spousal support. - Children and Divorce
In the best interest of the child.
Divorce can be nasty business, but no matter how angry you are at your spouse, it's no excuse to involve your children in the nastiness. - Divorce Lawyer
A solid relationship with your divorce attorney
What your lawyer needs and expects from you and what you should expect from your lawyer. - Parenting
Parenting pitfalls
Common warning signs that you need help before your children become casualties of your divorce.
June 2009
- Divorce Law
The Divorce Process - Part IV: Issues to deal with and the divorce Judgment
A basic guide to the legal process behind ending your marriage, Part IV: The issues you need to deal with and the Judgment. - Health/Well Being
Pieces of you
Identifying and filling the "missing pieces" is the key to finding the life and love you want. - Financial Planning/Investment
Suddenly Single: Insurance Factors for Single Parents
As a single head of the household, it is critical to have periodic evaluations of your insurance coverage to ensure that your children are protected and financially secure at all times. - Infidelity
How to Earn Forgiveness and Rebuild Trust after Betrayal
Learn how the damage of infidelity can be undone. - Parental Alienation Syndrome
Am I a Parent Alienator?
Take this test online and find out if you alienate your children against your ex.
May 2009
- Children and Divorce
Telling Your Kids: Preparing for Your Children's Responses
Prepare yourself for the different kinds of emotional reactions your children may have after you tell them about your divorce. - Health/Well Being
Anger Management
Now that it's over, it's okay to feel angry. - Parenting & Step-Families
Check, Please! Don't give up on your parenting responsibilities
It is best to exercise some logic and good judgment when it comes to your children and your household during your divorce. - Divorce Law
Divorce Process - Part III: Litigation and negotiation
A basic guide to the legal process behind ending your marriage. - Divorce Recovery
Bootcamp for the broken-hearted
Here's a look at the stages of a broken heart -- and some tips on mending your heart and moving on.
April 2009
- Children and Divorce
Telling your kids: helping your kids cope over time
After you've told your children about your divorce plans, you must keep your promises to them about what life would be like in the future. - Divorce Law
Divorce process - Part II: Preparing discovery
A basic guide to the legal process behind ending your marriage. - Financial Planning/Investment
I am overwhelmed with debt and bills from my divorce. What can I do?
Putting off handling your finance after the divorce can lead to sleepless nights and expensive mistakes. - Health/Well Being
Building a wonderful you
Learn how to embrace and accept yourself - Relationships
Reconcilable Differences: No More Secrets
A story of how two committed parents can have a good relationship with each other and their extended families regardless of the reason for the divorce.
March 2009
- Divorce Law
The Divorce Process
Seek proper information and advice before you agree on the terms of your temporary order as they can impact the final outcome of your divorce. - Children and Divorce
How to Help Your Child Through a Divorce
Children's reactions to separation and divorce are greatly influenced by their parents' reactions. Help yourself so you can help your children. - Financial Planning/Investment
Where Credit's Due
How to protect your all-important credit score during divorce - Infidelity
Frequently Asked Questions About Infidelity
These FAQs cover statistics on infidelity, signs of infidelity, and its impact on a relationship. - Parental Alienation
Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome
Learn to identify the patterns of alienation and it is possible for alienation to be reversed.
February 2009
- Financial Planning/Investment
Dividing Marital Property
Here's how to deal with complex financial or property issues in a divorce. - Children and Divorce
Creating Clarity from Chaos
With its new rules and routines, divorce can bring disorder to any domicile. Here's how to bring structure back to your family life. - Relationships
It's a Date
Getting ready to re-enter the dating scene? Here's a light-hearted look at the rules of engagement after divorce. - Divorce Lawyers
Working with Your Attorney to Get the Best Results Possible
A rundown of what to provide for your lawyer to help him create the best settlement for you. - Considering divorce
Get Clear If You Should Stay Or Go
Here's how to figure out if your relationship is workable and worth saving.
January 2009
- Parenting & Step-Families
Ten Tips for Divorcing Parents
Divorce is never easy on kids, but there are many ways caring parents can help lessen the impact of their break-up on their children. - Health/Well Being
Your Emotional Divorce and Recovery Attitude
Learn how your attitude affects your life. - Legal
Orderly Justice: The Phases of a Divorce Trial
Prepare yourself for the 8 phases of a divorce trial - Divorce Lawyers
The Full-Service Lawyer
What you get in the gold-plated divorce - Divorce Mediation
The Benefits of Divorce Mediation
How the mediation process can diffuse the conflict and improve communication in your divorce.
